How to win someone over?

If a guy (or girl) you are dating seriously and exclusively says they don't want a g/f only because they haven't had one in years and they gave up because everyone they ever liked never liked them back, how does one with them over? Is there ways to change someone's mind? I really like my guy, he says he doesn't want a g/f but he says I'm basically his g/f, and this guy has stole my heart. He also says he loves me... how do I show him I'm his? Is having the g/f b/f label important to any of you? It is somewhat to me because it makes it official, but it's not so important to make such a huge deal about it... anyways, help? Thanks!



Honestly, when he says that "everyone they ever liked never liked them back" make sure he knows that you are not everyone. Tell him that you know he's been hurt before but you will be better than that. It depends on how long you guys have been together, if it hasn't been awhile than maybe you just need to give him a little more time but if it has been a while tell him that. Tell him that you haven't hurt him yet and never plan on it. You just have to make sure that he knows you love him back and want nothing more than to know that you guys are each others and no one else's. Just try not to push him or this will probably turn into a fight which of course you do not want. Listen to what he has to say about it but make sure you let him know how you feel about him and being in a relationship. If he really loves you he'll come around eventually, I know it's hard but try to be a little patient. Good things really do come to those who wait but definitely talk to him about it. Good luck!




All you can really do is be yourself, and open up to him. Tell him that you like him. Hang out and get to know each other some more. Eventually, he will figure out, that you are being "for real" and aren't going to just run off when he says that he really wants to be with you.


I know it isn't much, but that usually does it, you just have to show him that your really into him, and that your not just going to leave him.




Be honest and talk to him about it, golden rule, never fails!




You sound like a child. Go play barbies first and I'll get back to you




I personally think that when someone loves you or really likes you, no convincing on your part needs to be done. They will fall for you and be committed to only you IF they WANTED to do that. It seems to me that your guy is making an excuse for not being exclusive because when he says you are "basically his girlfriend" but still will not take that extra step, that to me says that he is not willing to give up his single rights. As long as this goes on, he will continue to have you and be able to do whatever he wants as well, because truth be told, he's is not your boyfriend. He and you can do whatever you want, whenever you want, and with whoever you want to do it with! As far as a label being important, well, that's solely up to you! You can wait and take into consideration that you two are really close and you want to stick around and see where the "relationship" goes without a title. Or you can be upfront with him and tell him that you do understand that he doesn't want a relationship right now, but, love is very important to you and when two people love each other, that's serious and should be treated as such. Something has to give though!