Too soon? What do yall think?

Okay so my man and I have been dating for a total of a month, we have been talking for a little over 8 months, and for the past 7 months we had been talking about getting together, but were both in horrible relationships...We never cheated on our ex's, but we always talked about one day I will be his, and how happy we would be..Well long story short,





he told me he has a surprise for me...he gave me hints, and its an engagement ring, he told me he was still unsure, but now hes saying he wants to, he was just afraid that I would think hes rushing it. I feel like this is what I want, but everyone is telling me its too soon?





We would be engaged for a year before getting married.





What do you think?



You are both on the right track if you really feel like you love each other. What would you feel like if you looked back and did not get married on a good opportunity. On the other hand if you both are doubting it then do not go for it. Doubt brings guilt and is not a good relationship.




It is sort of fast. You have to ask yourself what the rush is. Even if you're not engaged or married, you're still together, isn't that the important part.





And I really hate to say this and I don't want to come off as rude or mean but you both claim to not be cheating on your ex's but talking to another person for 7 months about wanting to be with each other is classified as emotional cheating which is still very hurtful as physical cheating.




Personally I think you need to give yourselves time to just date and be a normal couple. The way in which you got together in the first place isn't reality.....I just mean that just because you talked for 8 months doesn't mean you truly KNOW each other and it definitely doesn't count as time being in a real r'ship. I would hold off and date for a year and see how it goes and then if you both still feel the same and want to get married, THEN get engaged.




Respect what you feel now but also respect that you are not a robot and feelings change all of the time. You may love him dearly now and as much as its cliche to say: people change and situations change. The person you are now is not the person you will be 6 months from now. We are constantly growing and learning no matter what age we are. Sometimes we are so blinded by love that we dont want to think with our brains but rather with our hearts. Lead your life with your heart and your brain. Together they will make the best decision.




me and my husband got engaged 6 moths after dating.(We got married after 1 1/2 years later) we did live together tho. I think you guys should make sure your a good fit before getting married. Talking and being in a relationship are totally different. I really don't think the 8 months of talking really count. So really you would be getting engaged after only 1 month... so ask your self is one month of dating enough to know you want to spend the rest of your life with this person?




Tell him to bury the ring in his sock drawer for six months. Spend a lot of time together. Don't hold back in having tiffs and fights for those 6 months. Spend time overnight at each your living spaces, even entire weekends. If you still are friends and find yourselves in love, have him dig under his underwear for the ring.





Shorten the engagement period to 6 months and get married. :)




Well, if you love each other and it's good, try the engagement.


See what it would be like and if this is what you really want.





But remember that people lose their "fronts" and those antics come out that you may discover that you don't like.


Just watch out for any red flags. I hope that doesn't happen though.





If it's love and there aren't any doubts, go for it.




Too soon, especially since you said yourself that you were both in other relationships until you started dating. I had a friend who did exactly the same thing that you just said you are going to do, and was divorced within less than 1 year of being married.




Wow lucky girl congrats :) . It shouldn't be soon if both of you dreams about future together . Just go for it if you really want to be with him .





And as you said if he's in rush or not ? I think he's afraid of loosing his love again . If happens when they got hurt in the past .




To me, too soon. Get to know each other for a year and then get engaged. Being engaged can be manic. Planning dates, picking colors etc. Once the fun wears off you realize you are stuck with a toad. Know yourself well. Know him well. The fact that you are questioning it is a red flag that you think it is too soon.




You don't say how old either of you are, but it really doesn't matter. Use your brains, yeah, it's too soon. You have only known each other for 8 months, and haven't even been together for that long. I don't care how much you think you love each other, give it time.




Um, yeah it's to soon!


In this day and age, people are always jumping into marriages and not really thinking things through. And you know what they do next? They get divorced!


If you guys are really meant to be, your relationship will only get stronger with the wait and you'll know for sure that you'll last.


If you guys really love each other and you really want things to work out, you'll wait.




well i definetly think its way too soon but hey its your life do what u want! i got married when i was 18 years old and everyone told me the same thing lol my family didnt even come to city hall on our wedding day... but the reason i say its too soon is because i think the best way to get to know someone is by living with them if u can live with him and things are good then u know ur ready. good luck with ur decision!




sounds too soon for me, but people do it all the time. my only advice is to talk to a marriage counselor so that you can cover any and all issues dealing with marriage. you'd be surprised what issues they bring up. this will either make or break your relationship but is very necessary!




Even though you both are in bad relationships and you care about eachother deeply, maybe you should both get out of your relationships and star dating completely. There is really no rush, but if you think you guys can survive...then go for it. Good luck!




way way to soon me and my man have been dating for about a year and 8 months and i still think that is to soon i think if u must just have a long engagement and move in together to really see if he is the one




i would move in for him for at least a year, and see how you handle being around him 24/7 then i would plan on getting engaged after that, if you think you need time to e sure then i would just postpone a wedding for a few more months




TOO SOON! Stop right there! You should not even think about getting married untill the two year mark rolls around! I would say date the person for at least 5 years before tieing the knot! The reason everyone is telling you it is too soon... is because it is!




I have been with a guy for a year or so but im underage i have to wait 3 years to be with him long story short EVERYONE THINKS HE IS A MISTAKE i love him and thats all that matter to me




If you have no doubts, why do you want other`s opinions - that suggests an element of doubt.


And if you intend to be engaged for a year that is plenty of time to be doubly sure.




If both of you feel ready it's no problem. Some people wait 8 years before they get engaged and marry only to divorce a year later. There really is no recipe. If both of you want it, it's not too soon. Good luck.




i think you should be together for a few more months, then accept it, but still wait a year or longer to get married. things get weird when you stop being just friends and are more. waiting is the best option.




i think that you should date A LITTLE more, JUST IN CASE, and then stick with your 1 year engagmet. my parents dated for three years, then were engaged for 2. they are happily married.




no matter what someone tells you , or what you believe , a month ... is a very short period of time , you didn't even have time to get into a fight or argument yet ...





girl you're crazy , listen to your friends.




Getting engaged is not getting married. You are going to be engaged for a year so, I think you are okay.




Think for while and decide, according to me its to early to get in...I suggest you have a thought and then give ur answer.......




Go for it. Sounds pretty romantic to me. Live in the moment and see how you feel as the wedding day approaches.




Just take it slow and you will be fine.




Life is fleeting. If you know you love him go ahead. Don't live with what if's.




why the rush anyways




well, I would say yes and see how the engagement goes. If after a year you are still really happy, then why not!